Writing your own vows can be daunting, but it really does not have to be. It is as simple as this: You are writing the vows for one person. You are not writing vows for every guest attending your wedding. Your guests are mere witnesses to your love for this person. All you need to remember is you want to make your significant other half know how much they mean to you.

Setting up what you are going to say

Before you begin writing your vows, ask yourself a few questions. Answering these will help you with the content.

Why write your own vows?

Writing your own vows is so important in making your wedding ceremony personal and meaningful to you both, as opposed to being given them by your registrars or an officiant.

Why have you decided to marry?

Maybe it is because your fiancé is the most incredible person you have ever met, and you couldn’t imagine being apart from each other. Just remember to be authentic and, more importantly, yourself.

How does your fiancé make you feel?

Perhaps your partner makes you feel like you are the only person in the room. How great they are at this should be recognised in your vows.

When did you know you were in love?

This one should be easy. It is that moment of freezing in time, locking eyes, and knowing you have a special connection. You will know this.

What do you want your fiancé to feel?

They should feel like your hero – one in a million.

Share your favourite memory or something unique about your fiancé

Maybe they have a contagious laugh, or perhaps they are not the best in the kitchen but can help solve a problem right out of the gate. Anything that comes to mind, use it.

What are your common loves and likes?

This could be your favourite places, the love for travel, music, or favourite foods.

Now that you pretty much have your content for your vows, the structure should consist of the below:

• Make them feel adored, special and loved
• Pledge your love
• Talk about what you see the future holding for the both of you

When you are honest with your thoughts for this amazing person, the process will be effortless.
Remember, your vows are for your one and only!

Best of luck from the team at Delamere Manor. x

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